In this materialistic and superficial day and age, how can we truly feel happy from the inside?
Many of us miss the opportunity to be happy, because we live in a "ill be happy when-" attitude.
Ill be happy when my exams are finished, Ill be happy when i get a new career, Ill be happy when i can afford a car, Ill be happy when i can buy a nice house, Ill be happy when ill find my soul mate, Ill be happy if ill win the lottery, Ill be happy if my dreams come true. And the list goes on.
There was a study on a number of people who won the lottery, who all returned to the same level of happiness before winning the money.
I'm sure we have all seen those people, rich and celebrities who seem to have it all, looks well, fame.. who get lost in drugs, alcohol and rehab.
Everybody just seem to be too busy looking at these flashy things that these celebrities own, rather than realizing the hurt that goes on behind these lies.
So, realize that happiness isn't depends on getting what you want.
We keep working because to us what we have just never seems enough, so we are constantly working to secure ourselves.
Happiness can only be now because it is the only time that really truly exist.
Everybody only have a curtain amount of time on earth, but we don't realize how we can disappear in any minute. Live in the moment, don't wait for the future to be happy. After all you have no control over it so don't mess this moment.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Self pity feels like your best friend but its actually your worst enemy. Not only does it not help the situation only one bit, it only makes you bring yourself down and others around you, so let go of the past and free yourself.
Don't make yourself a victim. A victim is one who believe that the past is more powerful than the present, and they blame the way they are or the way things are happening in their lives- to the people around them. And they don't realize that through your complaining, shame and blaming, you are responsible for your own unhappiness.
Its pointless to hold on to emotions that holding you back.
"worrying Is like sitting in a rocking chair, it takes up a lot of energy and it doesn't get you anywhere."
So focus your energy on solution, the lesson you learnt, and on accepting things, and you can help your life to move forward.
Your future has no room for the past.
Its just pointless.
Even though you had a bad beginning, it doesn't mean that you cant have a good finish.
Question your thoughts
"the mind is a place of its own, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven." John Milton
Apparently we go through 60,000 thoughts a day, 80% OF THEM ARE NEGATIVE. So we are really cynical. And science tells us that we have always been this way because our ancestors just always had to stay alert for bad things that happened to them if they were too comfortable or too relaxed – the better chance they'll get attacked by some animal.
But here is the thing – has it ever accrued to you that your thoughts aren't always true.
In fact, very often they lie to you.
You don't believe everything that you hear, you don't believe everything you see on television, on radio and magazines.
So what makes you think that your mind can be completely trusted on?
Question your thoughts! Suffering comes from believing your thoughts.
In any dilemma or situation, it never ended as bad as I imagined it in my head. They were false allegations that just made me be turned up on.
So sometimes your thoughts may tell you that your ugly, or your worthless or that your stupid. It doesn't mean it's the truth.
People just focus on how they feel, rather than focus on how they should think! And you've got to be careful because your thoughts become your words, your words become your action, your action becomes habits, character and than destiny.
Focus on gratitude
Too often we focus on what we don't have, rather than what we do have. And it can be so easy to take everything and everybody for granted.
How much time of your day do you spend focused on your problems rather than gratitude?
You think there's nothing to be thankful for? You are wrong.
The next time you have a bad day at work, think of the man who has been out of work for a year
The next time your stuck in a traffic, think of areas in the world where automobiles are unheard of and sometimes you have to go miles and miles under the sun.
The next time you feel lost and unsure where you're heading in life, think about the people who where short lived and didn't have the opportunity to think about what they wanted to do with their lives.
The next time you go through a break up, think about the people in the world who are incapable of being loved and loving others.
The next time you're a victim of loneliness or judgment, it could be worse. You could be that person.
I am obsessed with spending my days counting my blessings, big or small. It makes a huge difference in life when you act out of gratitude.
The media is constantly trying to tell us that we are not happy, whether it's how we look, what we have.. they try to tell us that we are not satisfied. Why else do you think they would spend millions on millions of dollars on advertising strategies?
Frankly, we are not the ugly ones. It's the society that's ugly.
the next time you look at your reflection, instead of looking for flaws like bumps and define lines, look beyond these physical factors.
So when I look at the mirror I tell myself "Lindie, you flew half way around the globe to start your own company. I'm really proud of you. And Lindie, you make videos that help people to strive, to accept themselves a little bit more. I'm proud of you!"
Feel Compassion for yourself. When I look at the mirror, I see eyes of love stare back at me, I see eyes that look for the Beauty and goodness in other people and myself.
Rather than just focusing on physical features. I focus in beauty in myself. In from that look, I feel so much more beautiful.
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